If you listen carefully, youâll hear your motherâs fears there…or your fatherâs strong opinions. You might also hear authority figures like teachers, coaches or priests/nuns.
How you were treated and regarded as a child forms the basis of how you treat and regard yourself now.
How well your needs were met by your caregivers (and how well they met their own needs!) taught you about how much youâre allowed to meet your own needs now.
Thatâs why one of the most common things I suggest clients do is to meet their needs.
Because weâre not taught to do this. Especially when we grow up in stressed or dysfunctional families.
Thereâs a part of you thatâs still a child, even after all these years. And that child you is still just trying to have her needs met.
âď¸ The need to be seen and heard
âď¸ The need to have her feelings respected
âď¸ The need to be cared for and mothered
âď¸ The need for rest and nourishment
âď¸ The need to express yourself
The more those needs continue to unmet, the louder this child in you will protest, causing all sorts of problems with your health and relationships.
What is it that youâre desperately longing for? And instead of hoping someone will rescue you and be the parent, how can you become the parent you always needed – for yourself?
How can you meet your own needs, rather than pushing them down, ignoring them?
What is one small thing you can do to care for yourself today?
